Hello All,
This blog is dedicated to everyone who seems to be stuck in the "Friend Zone".

 Sweet? Charming? Sensitive? Understanding? SINGLE???
I can't tell you how many men I've come across that are exactly everything that women look for in a man, but for some reason, women keep this guy as a friend and oddly enough, has not gotten down on her knee and proposed to him before someone else snatches him up.

Guys, being in a platonic relationship, do you really have platonic thoughts about your "Best Friend?" Of course not! Every man, (that has an attraction to women) at one time or another, will have a naughty, indecent thought about his very platonic friend. To my experience, the men that befriend these very dubious, oblivious gals, do in fact have very strong, emotional and passionate feelings for them. The problem here is, they'd rather stay in the friend zone then lose the girl because of a nasty break up or confusion over mistaken signals.

Now Guys, My question to you is: Does playing the best friend really work? Does it really get you closer to her, or are you the guy who she calls when she needs a ride home from the party you weren't invited to? The guy who watches her swoon over guys, while she tells you all about her feelings for other men, and you just stand there and tell her how gorgeous she is and any guy would be so lucky to have her.  While you sit and daydream and wonder if you will ever have a shot with her, if you're even worthy enough. Sure, she really is one of your best friends and you're content just being her friend, but are you her best friend or her compliment buddy who she turns to when the guys she's after, treat her like shit?

Trying to get her to notice your feelings for her is like asking Ray Charles which color looks best on you. You can try your best, but she will never consider it, as if she didn't already, (because she has) she will "pretend" that she had no idea and tell you she's not interested, and she loves you but only as  friend, when all along, the very littlest things she does was to get your attention. Not because she fancies you, but because she needs a man's attention.

  While some men just deal with the "Friend Zone" many others stoop to other alternatives to get out of the situation, one of these alternative's, is bringing other women in your life and being all chummy and slighty more friendlier to try and make your BFF jealous. Guys, this is a bad idea,  Not only will she pretend that she doesn't care, but she will grow angry with you and slowly back off, and you don't want that, if she is your best friend. If you feel that she calls you her best friend simply because you'll do anything under the sun for her, you not only need to run, and run far, but you need to tell her that you're not her doormat and you deserve to be acknowledged and considered and treated with the respect that you treat her with. Some of the most common mistakes guys make, is to allow themselves to be walked on by women. These type of women, know what they're doing, they know you fancy them, therefore, they know you will never deny them and they take advantage. It's that simple. Note it, remember it, Avoid it!

           My Advice: I personally think that the best approach is to talk about your feelings with her. If you want to know if you're not way out of line to even ask her, ask her the following questions:

• "What kinda guy do you look for?"
• "What's your favorite feature about me?"  
• "I'm ready to get serious and I  want to settle down, would go out with a guy like Me?.                     Or simply tell her it's always been a dream of yours to marry your best friend. These questions will help you inch out of your zone or at least make her aware that you're trying to break away from the ever-fading existence, however, I'm afraid if you're not 100% honest about what you feel for her, you will never escape that sticky "friend zone" and you'll be her part-time, love caddy, forever.

Just Friends v. Best Friends v. Life Partners.

Final Thought: If you both are really as good of  friends as you think you are, then once you tell her what you feel, she will be straight forward with you and it wont ruin your relationship. The worst that can happen is you know the ugly truth, and live with it, if you decide it's worth the pain. But the best that can happen is, you get your girl and your best friend and that my friend, is worth everything in the world.